I saw my boyfriend dancing intimately with another girl at Homecoming. Now I don't know if we should break up or not. Any advice?
Sincerely,
Dazed and Confused
Dear Dazed and Confused,
Thank you for sending in your question. I am happy to answer any questions and give you some advice. Personally, I think that you should talk to him about it. What he did was not okay and he must be held accountable. In a relationship, you should always be aware of your actions because it may hurt your partner. There needs to be honesty and mutual respect in any relationship. In this case, there’s already a red flag since your boyfriend did not tell the girl he was dancing with to stop or back off. The fact that he continued to dance with her in this way is unbelievable. Of course, it's fine for him to have friends that are female but when it seems that there may be more under the surface, definitely let him know you are uncomfortable with their actions. Communication and commitment is a necessity as well that goes a long way. I think you should confront him about what happened and let him explain himself because you deserve that communication. If this has happened to you more than once, consider breaking up with him due to the sole lack of consideration and trust. I say this because trust is everything in a committed relationship, and if there is no trust you'll constantly be paranoid. So, definitely have a conversation about it and don't hold back -- let him know how you feel. Don't be afraid to let him know what you think. If he becomes angry or annoyed, he might be hiding something. Typically, when a guy becomes defensive they may try to flip the blame around. Try to stay as calm as possible because you should try to be the bigger person and not stoop down to his level. I hope you find this helpful and if you need anything else I'll be here for you. Don't forget that you are an amazing and wonderful person, and that you deserve better.