Dear Margot: Asking a Friend to Hoco

“Dear Margot, I want to ask my friend out to homecoming but we’re both girls and I'm afraid she’ll be weirded out and reject me. What do I do?” 

I feel like as long as you keep it in a friendly manner then she shouldn’t be uncomfortable. We all have different feelings about these things and it is hard to go off of what little information I have about her. But if something like that will make her uncomfortable, then you could try hinting at her before asking her out. If she rejects you then you could ask another friend. If you’re set on asking her out then maybe you could do something small to help keep her comfortable. It honestly just depends if you have feelings for her or if you don’t. Asking someone as a friend is completely different from asking with feelings. 

I don’t necessarily understand why she would be weirded out and uncomfortable when it’s her friend asking her out but we all think differently. I’ll try my hardest to understand why she would feel that way. Plus, it’s very thoughtful that you recognize how she would feel towards this and you’re taking her feelings into consideration before doing something that would put her on the spot. Also, it could possibly make the friendship awkward.

You shouldn’t be afraid if she rejects you. Friends would want to spend time with the ones they feel most themselves with, and enjoy being with. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to be friends with you if she rejects you. As long as you respect her boundaries after asking her then it should be fine. Try your best to keep the proposal small and underwhelming. Possibly with less people around, a small basket (if you want), a small sign, and not being so sudden with the question so she has a bit of time to think before answering. 

You should still try to ask her out — don’t be afraid of rejection! It’s a one-time thing and the embarrassment won’t last forever. Make sure to stay positive, keep faith with you, and respect her boundaries. I hope the proposal goes well between you and your friend.

Sincerely, 

Margot

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