My friend and I have a crush on the same guy. I told her I liked him but she's still chasing him after she told me she wouldn't. Please help me, I don't know what to do.
Heartbroken and upset
Dear Heartbroken and upset,
I want to start off by saying that no guy is worth losing a friend, especially if it's your best friend. Romantic relationships in school aren't that important. It may seem like it now, but you'll soon learn that it is only temporary. I recommend that you speak to your friend and discuss how you feel about her trying to get at him knowing you like him. I think you both need to figure out whether or not this guy is even worth it. If I'm being honest, high school relationships don't tend to last that long. You are young, and shouldn't really focus on these kinds of relationships. I would advise that you just talk to your friend about this because communication is key. If you really like this guy, then go for it, just let your friend know that you actually want to date him. I understand she likes him too, but if this is creating a problem for both of you then maybe you should decide that it isn't a good idea to keep pursuing this guy. I've had a similar experience and it really doesn't end too well. You'll both end up hurting each other and for what? A guy? Don't forget there's many fish in the sea, so don't focus on just one person. What I mean by this is that there will always be someone else, so don't feel like you have to be with this person exclusively. Remember that most high school relationships will not be permanent. I hope this helps you a bit. If you have any other questions please feel free to let me know. I will be more than happy to help you.