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Dear Margot: Problems Within

Dear Margot “I struggle with being assertive. Even when I try, my voice doesn’t get heard and I keep going back to my comfort zone. And yet, people still call me a doormat. How do I fix this?

Hey there follow Monsoon, Margot here! I totally get how frustrating this may seem to you. I feel the same way, assertiveness is something that many people often struggle with. Assertiveness is not about being loud or aggressive; it's about being confident and direct. Many of us struggle with assertiveness, feeling our voices go unheard despite our efforts. This often leads us back to our comfort zones, and this is probably why you got labeled as a doormat, but don’t let that define you. You are not a doormat, you are a human being trying to speak out. 

The key to breaking this cycle of not feeling this way is to practice clear and effective communication. Start by expressing your thoughts and needs in a straightforward manner, without being confrontational. It's also crucial to maintain strong body language—stand tall, make eye contact, and speak clearly.

 Remember, assertiveness is a skill that requires practice. Begin in low-stakes situations where you feel safer and gradually work your way up as your confidence grows. Over time, this practice will help you feel more empowered in your interactions, ensuring your voice is not just heard but respected. Assertiveness isn't about changing who you are; it's about showing your strength, even when people don't always agree with you.

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