Dear Margot: Am I Annoying Him?

Dear Margot, “He left me on read for a while…& when he replied it was just ‘k’. Does this mean I’m annoying 2 him?”

It is a difficult situation when you are talking to someone and you feel ignored. This is a common feeling to get when you feel like you’ve been brushed off, but that might not be the case. There could be a variety of reasons for this response and how you can move forward from it.

One way you can figure out how he truly feels can easily be done by simple conversation. You can explain your feelings about the situation to him and see his reaction to that. If he gives a sincere explanation as to why he was replying that way, then you are most likely not annoying him and it might’ve just been a miscommunication. But, if he continues to give those dry responses, he unfortunately might not be interested in speaking anymore. 

If he does not want to speak to you anymore and does happen to find you annoying, that doesn’t make you any less of an amazing person. There are plenty of other people out there who would love to talk and get to know you. Don’t let this one guy make you feel bad just for speaking to him. If he makes you feel like you’re annoying, maybe he’s not the right person to talk to anyways. You deserve someone that will make you feel listened to. 

Overall, straightforward communication should help figure out true feelings towards you. It may seem a little out of your comfort zone, but that should make you know where you stand with him. If he doesn’t like you for you, then someone else out there will be appreciative of what you have to offer. Best of luck and remember to always be yourself!

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