Dear Margot…
My boyfriend dumped me and I don’t know how to make myself feel better about it.
Dear Individual…
To start off, I would like to thank you for coming and sharing your problem. I apologize for the fact that you have to experience this but just remember, that everything is going to be okay! Break ups are powerful especially to the person who gets broken up with and they can be a real pain to get over. Feelings like loneliness are amplified, and it seems like things aren’t how they should be, but it's important to keep in mind that things happen and that there are ways to help yourself accept it.
Speaking of acceptance, I believe that’s an extremely important part of the puzzle. Constantly thinking about this person is natural, but just because it’s natural doesn’t mean it’s not still painful. Therefore if you are willing, getting rid of any of your ex-boyfriend's belongings or simply getting rid of any pictures or videos, just to help you think about him less. Anything around you that might correlate to him could cause you to think of old memories and trigger you. It is better to move forward without having things like that weighing you down.
One of the biggest struggles is the overbearing loneliness that comes with being freshly out of a relationship. Relationships are fundamentally based on companionship, which could easily be taken away in a break up. You might find yourself lonely at times and that's okay. Allow yourself to take the time and feel what you need to feel. After doing this, surround yourself with loved ones and people who will support you. Please make sure to take care of yourself because the more you love yourself, the stronger and more confident you will become.
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