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Dear Margot... I Need Help!

Dear margot, I was best friends with this girl, but she ended up cutting things off because another one of my friends told her stuff that wasn't true, and now they both hate my guts. What do I do?


Hey, friend! I hope all is well with you. This seems like a very odd, confusing situation, but I'm here to help!


I know breakups are hard, whether they're between friendships, family members, or romantic partners; anticipated or not, they are hard. When these things happen, it's never one-sided. Both parties in the falling out are at fault. To me, this sounds like a common miscommunication error. As for your old friend inserting themselves into the matter, confidently I will say that it is not your fault. In a way, I can also see that there was possibly no trust between you and your best friend in the first place. While this sounds harsh, think about it; your friend believed someone other than you first, in their eyes you were not the priority. Again, things like this can be hard, but it's important to keep an eye out for yourself.


So now that things have ended, what are the next steps? I would recommend getting to know other people around you if you haven't already. When I had a falling out with an old friend of mine, I found that there are so many people out there who enjoy me just as much as my friend did, if not more! Don't hide yourself because there are people giving you a hard time in life. I think it could even be beneficial to take some time alone to evaluate what YOU want. It's always good to take a minute and worry about yourself, maybe even be a little bit selfish. If there's a possibility down the line where there's even an opportunity to talk to the friends you lost, it would be in your best interest to take it. No friendships have to spark, however, it would be nice to clear the air and avoid resentment or 'bad blood.' I hope my comments help you!

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