Dear Margot - Love Conflicted
Updated: Mar 18
I’ve been talking to this girl for awhile and she makes me really happy, except I'm really skeptical about getting in a relationship with her; I'm scared of getting hurt. I've had two other girlfriends in the past and they both hurt me in ways you can’t even imagine. I really want it to be different with her but I haven't made a move because I have this way of thinking where I always assume the worst. I’m not sure what to do because I am trying to protect myself from the what-ifs. What do you think I should do? Should I go for it or should I try to ignore my feelings for her before they develop into something else.
Dear Love Conflicted,
I understand you and where you are coming from. I recognize your concern, but that shouldn’t stop you from experiencing something that could be good for you. I know you’re putting up a wall to protect yourself from getting hurt but you have to understand something: those girlfriends that you previously did have may have hurt you, but they taught you something. They taught you lessons that you can use to grow as a person and experiences that will help you in life. It’s good to be self-aware of things that could potentially affect you later on, but you shouldn’t let what happened in the past affect how you see things and people. Every single person on this Earth is not the same, and not everyone is going to have bad intentions.
If you think this girl is good for you and you feel like she can truly make you happy, then I say go for it. It’s time to start following your heart and what you want. I know love can be one of the scariest feelings in the world but if it’s with the right person it can really help you become the best version of yourself. If you feel something for this girl, don’t ignore it. Make your move with her and see where it goes from there. Don’t let your past hold you back! I wish you the best and good luck. :)